Life today for Men

Life for many Men these days is...... move in with a partner (get married), get a job, have kids, and….. move away from where they grew up or at least lose contact or regular contact with their mates.

'New Life'

And in this ‘new life’, they, get up every day, got to work, come home, eat dinner, go to bed, get up, got to work, come home, eat dinner, go to bed ……and on and on it goes. After a couple of years, that becomes their whole life. Possibly with a bit of sport, family and socialising in-between.

In some cases, your work becomes your family, and even the family become a vague abstract feature of life.

This can then create tension in personal and business relationships. Bringing about an identity crisis, feelings of loneliness and isolation. Leading to depression, anxiety, grief, or stress. 

You can have lots of friends, business colleagues and family around you and still feel lonely.

So when this ‘new life’ starts to unravel or fall apart, you are left with no one to turn too. Because you have become detached from family, and your mates are in the same situation or have moved on or away. 

And, us being blokes, we don’t talk!

If ignored, this situation can develop into alcoholism, drug use, self-harm and affect your physical and mental health. With symptoms of schizophrenia, anxiety and depression. And sometimes lead to suicidal thoughts and actions.

So lets talk!

So… if you can associate with anything I have said above, or you know someone who does; Firstly, You are not alone, you are not the only person who feels like this, and life can and will get better.

If would like to talk more. Get in touch with us at The Man Shed. www.themanshed.org.uk

Or if you need to talk right now or feel you need specialist help. contact the CALM Zone https://www.thecalmzone.net/help/get-help/

or
The Samaritans at http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you

Thanks 

Graham Foxwell

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